What is it that keeps you doing something that does not satisfy your spirit and soul?
There is not much that i do that makes me unhappy. Well, there is only one "thing" that i find myself "talking about" that sucks my energy all up and leaves me DRY. So I'm practising and learning how to deal with "that" thing, and have come a very long way. Only God can help me with this one (lol).
However, I do not get into too much that makes me unhappy. Obviously there are things you will never be able to control, but what about those things that you have FULL control over....like your job!
I agree that we, as a society, spend way too much time talking about career. It’s usually one of the first questions you ask when you meet someone; “What do you do?” It’s how we connect with others. It’s how we identify ourselves. People use their careers to define who they are and place value on others, and this can have devastating consequences. Why do we do this? Why do we care so much about what we or others do? Further more, why do we stay at jobs that are so dissatisfying? If you find yourself saying these words in regards to your job, “It’s alright ...(or)...It pays the bills.” You are obviously not at the right job. But that is ok, for now....
So my question is, "What is keeping you there?"
What is there that fulfills you? Why do we look for our jobs to bring us the happiness that we need? Maybe it's the long hours we put in? Hmmmm. While i don't believe we should judge a person according to their jobs, i do believe we should be happy with our jobs. There is nothing like going home miserable and unable to put a smile on your face for your family. If, you are not happy at home, than that makes it all the harder.
I have come to learn that "career" is an extension of "self." It is not enough to just like it, you have to "love it."
If i ask "what do you love doing?" What would your answer be? Do you have a social life? How is your relationship with your family and friends? What topics interest you? Do you have any hobbies?
If you can't answer these questions, than something is not right in your life. This is for YOU to evaluate, not me/us. The only thing that matters at the end of the day is YOUR happiness. That is it. Your career is NOT your "identity." Everything in between it, is. Whether we are cleaning toilets at the mall or working at a factory, my/our career should never define our existence.
You don’t have to find fulfillment from work. It’s nice when you do. But it’s rare in today's society. Whatever you do, don't neglect the things that can truly fulfill you. That is "our" problem.
It’s perfectly okay to find passion and fulfillment in other areas of your life (actually this is highly recommended). When people ask you what you do, you don’t always have to talk about your resume. You can tell them about your hobbies or your family. You can tell them that you enjoy going to the gym, designing cards, writing or even doing "nothing."
Let's change our perceptions of career.
I say, let’s recognize that work is meant to pay the bills and feed our families. If it does more, you are lucky. But focus on identifying your passion outside of the workplace. Don't try and find everything at work. If you know what i mean. It is enough that our "work" provides means for survival. That means, it’s fulfilling its purpose.
If you want something to define YOU, than get up and go find it. Stop waiting around for it to come to you!