Thursday, February 14, 2013
We have got to get clear on what we want to do.
In order for every single one of us to feel alive we have got to feel like we are growing. Not one of us can argue this point. If you asked me what it took to be happy, I would answer with one word; progress. Because progress = happiness. Even if you are not where you want to be, if you are on the road, if you are improving and making progress, you are going to love it. If you stop growing, you start dying inside.
If you want to know what it takes to be happy, you have got to understand clearly the "blueprint" of what our life is suppose to be. The blueprint is our story in our head of how our life is suppose to be. Everyone's blueprint is unique to them. We are ALL special. A mother who stays home caring and molding her children is special and unique. A school teacher who educates students is special and unique. A personal support worker.....a pastor....a janitor...each of them are special and unique.
We live in a world today where we treat teachers and janitors terribly. Have you asked what would this world be without our house wives and stay home mothers? How would the conditions of our schools and office's be without our janitors?
No matter what your story is, there is something you are feeling good about. What do I mean by this? Well even if your fiances are not the way you would like them to be, you probably have a very close relationship with your kids. Even if you have no children and would like some your probably very content with your career and finances. Maybe you don't have that house you have been dreaming about, but you have a real close connection to God. We all have an area of our lives we feel really good about.
What is an area in your life you feel really good about? Now question, why are you happy with that area in your life...right now...today? Stop reading right now and write it down. Please.
The formula for happiness equals to your blueprint. Whenever your happy with an area in your life (mine is the fact that I am a stay home mom working from home and taking care of my health)it is because the conditions of your life equal to your blueprint and your story. It equals to your beliefs about life in that area. It is important for me to nurture, educate, care for and love my children, and so being there for them the moment they get home and taking care of home while they are at school matters to me. Being able to eat healthy and juice twice a day, workout in the early mornings matters to me. My mental blueprint says, "I need to be home caring for my home, family and health overall" and so I feel good in that area. You may feel the same way but in your finances. You could feel the same about the partner in your life. So your blueprint says your relationships matters to you.
To be happy, your blueprint has to be able to meet your expectations. Your life conditions meet your blueprint and that feels good. Right? But when you feel bad, it creates frustration and pain. What is an area in your life that you are NOT happy with?
We tend to focus on areas we feel comfortable and strong in. So instance, maybe you feel super about your relationship with your partner but you are not spending enough time with your kids. We tend to tell ourselves, "I don't have time to workout" well that is a lie. That right there is an area you don't feel good about so you are not focused on it. If you do the math, most people who say they have no time to workout are people who are not comfortable with how they feel and look.
The whole concept of a breakthrough is about looking at where you are right now and where you want to be. When you write it down it helps you to see clearly where you are right now in a particular area in your life and where you want to be.
Write down that area you are not happy with. Then write down why you are not happy. Maybe you are 50 pounds over weight. Maybe you don't like the relationship you are in. Maybe your house is not organized, messy and unclean.
If your current conditions do NOT match your story / your blueprint, the life you imagine for yourself, then you are going to have enormous stress, frustration and pain. Because your life is not the way you want it and imagine it to be. But you can change that. YES YOU CAN!
Maybe you are feeling right now like life is not worth living or you feel worthless. Well that is because you have a blueprint that may say, you need to be a basketball player or a top model, or rich or you were suppose to be married by now...because that is what you feel will make you feel worthwhile. Life will not always match the blueprint. Things will happen and get in the way, but you can change the conditions of your life. Just because you are divorced that does not mean there isn't another soul-mate out there for you. Just because you didn't get that job, doesn't mean there isn't one out there for you. Stop making yourself feel like you are helpless.
Unlock yourself from a mindset of, "I dreamed of being a professional singer and it didn't happen" and start recreating your blueprint. Stop blaming the world and people around you. You are in control of your own happiness. Blame games destroy you.
If life doesn't match your blueprint you have got to change your life. Period. Start working out. Go back to school. Build a closer relationship to God. Start spending quality time with your children. Start eating healthy. Get out of that unhealthy relationship. Stop drinking and smoking. Spend quite time alone.
In order to be happy, if you can't change your life, your going to have to change your blueprint.
SO GO AHEAD AND BREAKTHROUGH!!!!