Friday, June 14, 2013
Just a few years ago, I was not able to speak on this topic from a place of truth.
Knowing how to love yourself is extremely important. Self love is at the very core of wellbeing, joy, self-empowerment, peace and your ability to create and enjoy the kind of life you want. You cannot enjoy happiness if you are not at peace with yourself. Your relationship with yourself is the most important one you’ll ever have. And you will not have healthy lasting relationships if this is not in place because every relationship you ever have with someone else exactly mirrors one or more aspects of the relationship you have with yourself.
Not knowing how to love yourself can be crippling. At the very least, you’re life will function on self doubt. And then of course you will give birth to depression and self hatred, which cripples you in every area of your life. The internal negativity cuts you off from your connection to your Spirit; God.
Until you know how to love yourself there will be a constant inner war going on that will prevent you from feeling fulfilled and knowing what inner joy truly feels like. Until then, you will have temporary feelings of happiness. Remember, happiness in an external feeling. It comes in spurts. When I get my nails down, I feel happy. But soon enough that feeling goes away.
I know this all too well; if you lack your own self love, you attract people and circumstances that mirror your crippling beliefs about yourself. You attract what you are. Yes that's right, I said it. When I was a victim; hurt, anger and confused, that is EXACTLY what I attracted. Even though I knew it wasn't what I wanted, in order to change anything about my circumstances, I had to first change within!
Until you learn how to love yourself, you will not be able to move forward or go after the things you truly desire and want. Cut out all the negative self-talk and beliefs about yourself that aren’t even based on reality. Their usually things that come from our parents, care givers, teachers, siblings, and other people around us during our early years through childhood.
The first step in loving yourself is to cut out NEGATIVE TALK! Period. I don't just mean about yourself, I mean about others. Because usually when you are complaining about others or gossiping, it is something within that is screaming out for help or attention. This negative self-talk is a symptom that shows up constantly until you learn how to love yourself. Be alert for inner negativity. Stop it. Don't allow yourself to go there. Sit down with a pen and paper and write a love letter to yourself. Whatever you are going through right now, you WILL get through. Tell yourself that in the love letter. Post it up somewhere in your bathroom or maybe on your desktop.
If you don't like the way you look (physically) then do something about it. You want to gain 10 pounds, then start drinking more smoothies or do what you have to do to achieve that goal. You want to loose 10 pounds then...well you already know what to do. Ladies, we got to love ourselves.
Can't nobody love YOU like YOU!