Tuesday, February 9, 2010
A Nurse, Provider, Referee, Chef, Chauffeur...A Hero!
I became a single mother pretty much when my now 17 year old son was still in diapers. When i say single mother i mean two things, one- not married and two - his dad was in and out. By that time, 1990's being a single mother was a common thing. It was "almost" excepted... Outside of those finger pointing folk of course and some quite influential. Who, saw us as child neglecting, not worthy, poor and selfish. They saw our children as disturbing, loud, mis-behaved, and dysfunctional. That in my eyes is and was a bunch of nonsense. Many single mothers are caring, sensitive, hard working, capable and loving. Most of their kids turn out just fine. My son is a living testimony to this. With people like these "finger pointing folk" it only makes for many mothers and their kids an already difficult situation all more difficult.
If we think we are looked at as monsters to these individuals, just think of how difficult it was in the 1930's and 1940's for women raising their children as single mothers. The discrimination and hardships they endured were heart breaking. I don't have any family members that were single mothers then. My father and mother were the first to break that flow when they divorced back in the 1980's. However i have read about and heard many personal stories from much older women about being a single a mother back then,
But even now in 2010 women are dealing with the same old misconceptions and criticisms that have haunted single mothers and their children for many decades.
Now of course laws and attitudes affecting sinlge families are better today then in the past. But they are still facing hardships and discriminations.....and sadly still do not get the credit they deserve.
It is interesting though that when men are raising their children as "single dads" they are praised and looked as "An awesome father, strong, responsible, caring...and many times a KEEPER (in the eyes of women)" Hmmmm think about how true this is.
I personally think it is time for us to truly look into the souls of these women and what is there. Strength, beauty, perserverance, A WOMAN, A MOTHER.
Let's start talking about the heartening and timeless truths about single-mothers and not about how she became a single mother. Wether by chance or by choice, we are doing the hardest job on earth-alone. For most of us we are doing it very well. with prayer, love, faith, grace and integrity. Its time to give single mothers the praises they deserve. Afterall a child is a blessing.
Call up a single mother today and tell her she is A HERO!
Chosen Single Mother of The Month:
The Late Ann Duham who sent a message to all single moms today that even if we are left to raise our child alone, they can become something great one day. She is the Kansas born late mother of Barack Obama, the 44th President of the USA.
If you are a single mother, please comment on your road to SUCCESS :-))